tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post6443148235110506677..comments2023-06-27T01:01:07.692-07:00Comments on TABBA: Alternate Universes and a Sensibility Tug O' WarTabbahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07571583646468537273noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-65353810433032739072007-05-25T10:16:00.000-07:002007-05-25T10:16:00.000-07:00I want to thank all of your for your insights/thou...I want to thank all of your for your insights/thoughts/etc.<BR/><BR/>I've given this situation a lot of thought. I've looked at it from every possible angle that I can possibly think of. And in this case (because of her hard living and manipulation as a means to just get by), I feel that I have to be swift and direct. I feel I have to say NO and shut the door. <BR/><BR/>When I was relaying this story to my BFF and her daughter. I said, "You know, I was saying to her 'I can't have him in my car.' But the thing is...I didn't want to be "rude"." How ridiculous is that?<BR/><BR/>But I feel in this case, I almost need to be. Otherwise, she'll just keep trying to take advantage.Tabbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07571583646468537273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-88974226049388354452007-05-25T10:12:00.000-07:002007-05-25T10:12:00.000-07:00What Deb said. You have a family who needs you and...What Deb said. You have a family who needs you and cannot afford for one second to put yourself at risk. Maybe just don't go to the door if you can't stand confrontation, but don't go anywhere like that again. Please.Livhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09154719979114564561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-84200391121800595832007-05-25T06:18:00.000-07:002007-05-25T06:18:00.000-07:00You know, I sat reading this with all kinds of com...You know, I sat reading this with all kinds of comments zipping through my head, and then about a third of the way through, I thought, "I can't wait to see what Rav had to say about this!"<BR/><BR/>I agree with him, you see. There is nothing wrong with being kind to strangers in need, but there is a difference between that and being taken advantage of by someone who could clearly be a danger to you. And I don't think judging people is always wrong. I think we have gut reactions for a reason.<BR/><BR/>You have small children who need you. And a husband who, like you said, knows of which he speaks. I think you should heed his advice.<BR/><BR/>Next time she shows, I think you're going to need to put your foot down, kindly, but firmly.<BR/><BR/>Keep on making sandwiches for the homeless, but don't get in a car with a crack whore!Pippajohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07651166001450622296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-61715443801129209102007-05-24T20:44:00.000-07:002007-05-24T20:44:00.000-07:00You have to say no Tabba. It's okay to say no. S...You have to say no Tabba. It's okay to say no. Say it loud, say it proud. I don't mind helping people, I'm often happy to but the woman can walk. I don't even drive my own kids that much:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-62204209842417602492007-05-24T18:33:00.000-07:002007-05-24T18:33:00.000-07:00Whoa, that's ... whoa.I can't say that I would fee...Whoa, that's ... whoa.<BR/><BR/>I can't say that I would feel comfortable with my wife doing that, Rav must be busting.11111111https://www.blogger.com/profile/10642068570509276596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-49621942083947272762007-05-24T17:30:00.000-07:002007-05-24T17:30:00.000-07:00Tab, you've got such a big heart but it may be tim...Tab, you've got such a big heart but it may be time to let her know that you helped her when you could but your family needs you. Let her know that you feel there isn't enough time in the day to spend with your family as it is. I fear for your safety. Addicts can be so unpredictable.Slackermommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03865649499682881722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-70759223912115430342007-05-24T08:43:00.000-07:002007-05-24T08:43:00.000-07:00In my view, you can engage where you feel safe and...In my view, you can engage where you feel safe and not where you don't.OhTheJoyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05031731198115388411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-12843212298093609952007-05-24T08:15:00.000-07:002007-05-24T08:15:00.000-07:00Let me just be blunt. The woman is a crack whore. ...Let me just be blunt. The woman is a crack whore. I could see the tell-tale signs all over her. I was remiss in even letting her speak to Tab last night. I should have told her to bugger off. But I didn't. The whole time Tab was gone, I kept thinking that if something happened to her, it would be my fault. I was so tired (only 3 hours of sleep in 48 hours), I just couldn't think straight. Tab and I don't always see eye to eye on certain subjects. Tab wants to help people, but doesn't always consider that it may not be the safest thing to do. However, if she knocks again when I am around, there will be no avoidance. I will handle the situation the way I should have handled it last night. Needless to say, she will not be getting anymore rides from us, unless of course it is in the back of a police car.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-5795823990253922162007-05-24T08:03:00.000-07:002007-05-24T08:03:00.000-07:00I would definitely stop responding to the woman. D...I would definitely stop responding to the woman. Dont answer the door to her or talk to her any further. In a few weeks, she will have moved on. There's no way to have a constructive dialogue with someone like that so I'd definitely use avoidance in this case. :) <BR/><BR/><BR/>Peace, <BR/><BR/><BR/>~Chanithailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31942236.post-24395276401389109612007-05-24T07:32:00.000-07:002007-05-24T07:32:00.000-07:00well, the rest of this story demands to be told.ta...well, the rest of this story demands to be told.<BR/><BR/>tab, all i could think was, trust your gut.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.com